My son was quiet, it was suspicious so I go to check on what he is doing. What I saw broke my heart. He was staring at a photo of myself, my mother, and my sister. His “Ama” and his “Titi”...and he was sobbing. He looks up at me with tears in his eyes and says “I miss them so much” even though we had just saw them the day before.
If we saw them the day before, what was the problem?
The problem was that the day before, we were at the airport to come back home to be across the country from them again. You guys. Being away from extended family SUCKS. We were so blessed to be able to go visit them for two fast and short weeks while daddy stayed home to work. So with that being said, we were ready to go back home to dad and sleep in our own beds, but we are never ready to say goodbye to family. Marrying a Navy man, I knew what I was getting into...but it will never be easy to watch my sweet and happy boy, cry painful tears while he says bye to his grandparents.
You better believe I’m crying right now as I write this.
My son was blessed with some amazing grandparents on both sides of the family, which makes for a double whammy for missing them all like crazy.
I believe the only way to get through this kind of pain, is to dig up any kind of positivity you can to help ease your heart.
- Being away from family does give you a strength you probably never knew you had.
- You learn to appreciate your family tenfold.
When I was a single mama, I used every source I had. If I had a hard day with my son, I asked my dad to babysit for a while. If I was going to be a late picking up my son from daycare, I was lucky enough that my mom would always offer to get him. If I was running low on food, and didn’t feel up to go to the store because I was sick, my mom would always bring me some groceries. If I wanted a night off? My dad came to the rescue. And all that my parents did for me, I got even more on top of that from my sister, and aunts, uncles, and my grandmother. I wish I could tell you that I remember thanking them profusely for doing all of this for the two of us, and while I’m sure I did thank them...I know I could have said it more. Especially now knowing I would do anything just to be able to spend a couple hours of everyday with them.
When we visit our parents, either mine in New Mexico or my husband’s in California, I am sure to soak in every minute of it. I make sure my son does the same. Now don’t get me wrong, our parents and families still do what they can to help us in anyway they can anytime we may need it even from across the country, and we will always be forever thankful for that.
My son gained his second set of grandparents and extended family on my husband’s side at the age of 2, and I need to brag on them for a bit. I have prayed for this family every night before I met them, they are my dream family-in-law. (Is that a word? I don’t know, I’ll keep it!) The love they have for our sweet boy is something I never thought was possible. His Yaya and his Popo, his uncles, and his great grandparents all love him so much. They make sure he is always taken care of and happy from thousands of miles away. If any of you are reading this, I hope you know that it will always bring me to tears with how much I love you all.
I want to close this blog to say to always appreciate your babies grandparents and how much they love them. If you are close to them, take advantage of all that they want to do for you, and always be thankful for it.